Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

We're getting real about navigating through the mess of shame and blame in the aftermath of infidelity. It's a deep, emotional rollercoaster of an episode but so needed. So, buckle up, because it's about to get raw and honest. First off, it’s important to note that while either or both spouses may feel blame; shame is never productive. There is a stark difference between guilt and shame. Guilt says “I did something bad.” Shame says, “I am someone bad.”  This episode is for any person who has ever suffered the betrayal of their partner and it's also for the one who has betrayed. No shame on you. Just hope and healing. Listen in.  Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Take the FREE "How Connected a Partner Are You?" Quiz Ep. 233: Discovering Your Spouse Has Been Unfaithful: Now What? **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Today's question comes from one of my Instagram followers who wants some suggestions on how to get in the mood for sex. Low libido or lack of sexual desire is a very common issue. Here's the question:  I have a question about intimacy. I have a hard time getting in the mood for sex. This has been a recurring issue for me. I just don’t think I’ve ever had a high sex drive. But I want him to be happy. I know it’s important to him. I’ve listened to some of your podcast episodes in the shameless sex series. You did a while back. Are there any quick fixes you can give for those of us who struggle in this department?  Listen in as I share my suggestions using the analogy of "getting your head in the game." Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Take the "How Connected a Partner Are You?" Quiz here. **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Please Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast.Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

As you deal with the shock of discovering your spouse’s infidelity, it can feel like a collision with a semi-truck, leaving you paralyzed, numb, and drowning in a sea of emotions. You have been traumatized. Your initial response to such devastating news can be paralyzing, leaving you grappling with disbelief, pain, and confusion. It’s a sensitive yet profoundly significant topic – navigating the aftermath of discovering a partner’s infidelity. Let’s unravel the emotional journey, practical steps, and the pathway to healing after the shattering revelation of a spouse’s unfaithfulness. Respond, Don’t React: In the midst of this emotional turbulence, it’s better to embrace a strategic approach – responding, not reacting. The distinction between these two responses will be critical as you navigate in the storm. Impulsively reacting, no matter how temporarily satisfying it may seem, only compounds the situation. Instead, choosing a thoughtful and intentional response lays the groundwork for healing and restoration. Listen as I share some suggestions to help accelerate the healing process.  Find the full show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com.    Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Download your “Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict” guide here.  Book suggestion: Good Grief by Granger Westberg Ep. 229: Hubby Talks: What Caused Infidelity in Our Marriage [Affair-Proof]   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We're addressing a listener's question about having no feelings for her husband anymore. She still has some desire to rebuild her marriage despite feeling empty and detached. If you've ever felt similarly about your spouse, you, too, will benefit from what I share. I explain how to "reignite" the loving feelings for your spouse with three responses:  feelings, forgiveness, and faith. The fact is that feelings are not final, and they are fickle. They are precious but not the priority. Instead of being led by our feelings, there are healthier and more effective ways to handle our lack of feelings toward our spouse. Listen in to learn the pathway forward.  Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 🔗Related Episode: #80: Feelings Aren't Forever  🔗 Submit your relationship questions 🔗 Get your free "Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict" 🔗 Interested in marriage coaching? Schedule your discovery call today.   Don't miss out on insights to improve your relationships. Hit the subscribe or follow button!Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

A staggering 40% of marriages will experience Infidelity at some point, Inevitably, infidelity leaves clues. Here are 10 warning signs plus 12 bonus digital red flags to be aware of that a spouse might be having an affair in person or online. It’s a hard topic to discuss, but I want you to be aware of these potential adultery indicators that may need to be addressed sooner than later. The purpose of this podcast is not to make you paranoid or suspicious of your spouse but to shed light on any deception in your marriage you may be unaware of. Remember, you can’t fix what you don’t face.  My husband, Shaun, and I shared our own story of infidelity on last week’s episode. Many of the warning signs we discussed during today’s show were present in my marriage. I’ve also witnessed these signs in the marriages of those I coach who are or have healed from infidelity. With nearly 25 years of marriage experience, I'm passionate about providing valuable insights into rebuilding relationships after infidelity and fostering open, honest conversations.   Resources Mentioned in this Episode:  Download your FREE Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict  Take the “How Connected Are You” Partner Quiz Today  Episode 229: Hubby Talks: What Caused Infidelity in Our Marriage    Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media.Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Learning your spouse is having an affair is devastating. One of our listeners wants to know if she should confront the other woman her husband was unfaithful with. This is an honest and vulnerable question that many betrayed spouses have when they are trying to make sense of the infidelity. I am sharing my best relationship advice with this listener and hope that you, too, will find answers should you find yourself in this unfortunate situation.  Have a marriage or relationship question you want to submit for the show? Do so at rebuildinguspodcast.com/contact or send me a message on Instagram.  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages nd relationships grow too! **  Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media.Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We're starting a new series on how to rebuild your marriage after an affair. My hubby, Shaun, and I are telling our story of what caused us to be unfaithful in our marriage, what we learned, and what safety nets we've put in place to keep another affair from happening. Christian couples are not immune to adultery, unfortunately. Most marriages have little to no boundaries, so it's no wonder couples find themselves cheating on their spouses against their good intentions.  This conversation is as real as it gets. If you want to protect your marriage from infidelity or are in the middle of trying to rebuild trust after an affair, this episode is for you.  Find the full show notes at https://rebuildinguspodcast.com.    Links Mentioned in this Episode:  Episode 3: Rebuilding Our Marriage; Rebuilding Our Trust Take the FREE "How Connected Are You" Partner Quiz    **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media.Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

As we grow older, our desires often change. One of our listeners has changed her mind about having kids and wants to know how to tell her husband. This conversation is coming up more and more, especially with younger couples. It's one thing to decide not to have kids before getting married, but often, something changes when you see someone else's cute baby or realize your biological clock is ticking quickly.  Listen as I share my perspective on how to have a conversation with your spouse if your desire for children changes.  Submit Your Questions Have a marriage or relationship question you want to submit for the show? Do so at rebuildinguspodcast.com/contact or send me a message on Instagram.  **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media.Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Welcome to the all-new "Rebuilding Us Marriage Podcast, formerly known as Real Relationship Talk.  I'm your host, Dana Che, marriage coach, and your guide on this journey to rediscovering the beauty and strength of your marriage. In a world where relationships are easily broken and discarded, this podcast is your lighthouse. All is not lost.  Join us as we explore the stories of couples who have overcome all kinds of adversity, reignited their love, and rebuilt their marriages from the ground up. Oh, and I’m not shy about my own marriage being restored from adultery. It’s why I do this podcast. If we made it, so can you. We couldn’t have made it without God on our side. His word is my guiding light. But on this podcast, we dig beyond surface-level Christian talk to see God at the center of our most messy spaces. From infidelity to intimacy struggles or just everyday marriage conflicts, we share practical tips and relevant advice to help you get unstuck and rebuild your life. Whether you're newlyweds adjusting to your new life or long-term partners seeking to reignite the flame, this podcast is for you. Together, let's embark on a journey of honest discovery, forgiveness, truth, and grace. Let's gather the tools for a thriving marriage with renewed love and unwavering commitment. The first letter in us is u, so to rebuild us, we have to rebuild you.  Subscribe to or follow the "Rebuilding Us Marriage Podcast today. Because no matter where you are, it's never too late to rediscover a resilient, renewed relationship. Get ready for the rebuild!  Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

I am thrilled to share some incredibly exciting news with you. The podcast is undergoing a major rebranding to better serve our listeners and community. I am happy to introduce you to the all-new Rebuilding Us podcast! This decision came after lots of prayer, input, thoughts, more prayer, more thoughts . . . it was a process. There is significance in the naming of something. Real Relationship Talk served us well, and now, we're hitting full throttle with Rebuilding Us. As I reflect on the challenges and triumphs of my own marriage, I recognize the need to create a more intentional space where individuals and couples can reclaim the goodness in their relationships, restore what was lost, and magnify the positive aspects of their marriages. This realization propelled me to reimagine the podcast to align it with my life’s calling, as expressed in Isaiah 61:4 - a scripture that signifies a continuous, active process of rebuilding in the context of marriage. In this episode, I reveal the why behind the new name and the new features you can expect to hear beginning next week! For a full rundown on what's changing and what's not, see the show notes at rebuildinguspodcast.com. Join my e-mail list and get first dibs on news, promotions, coaching, and updates!   **If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! ** Leave a Review and Subscribe to the Podcast Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Remember, sharing is caring! Share this episode via email or social media.Support the show: https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.