Q & A: How to Be Intimate When I'm Not Attracted to My Husband

A truly sensitive yet relatable marriage topic is what to do when you feel a lack of physical attraction to your spouse. It can be embarrassing to admit to ourselves, much less talk about it openly, but it's necessary if we want to find solutions and improve our intimacy.

A listener reached out to me, sharing her struggle. She explains that despite taking care of her own appearance, her husband has gained weight, which has affected her physical attraction to him. She has moments when she can overlook his flaws, but the inconsistency in attraction makes sustaining intimacy challenging. She wants to know how to continue keeping her husband sexually satisfied even when she's not feeling that attracted to him.

In response, I explore several avenues to help address her concerns by digging to find the cause of her unattractiveness, having a courageous conversation with her husband, seeking help from the Lord, putting herself in remembrance of her husband’s strengths, and “making love” where love doesn’t seem to exist.

Links Mentioned in this Episode:

Ep. 310 - 5 Types of Intimacy Your Marriage Can’t Live Without

Get My Free “Conversation Starters” for Couples in Conflict

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