Q & A: How to Win Back Your Spouse Without Pressuring Them

February 21, 2025
00:00 11:13
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Is your marriage on the line but you’re trying to win your spouse back? Rebuilding your marriage isn't easy, especially when your spouse isn't on the same page. In this episode, we address a listener's question about how to effectively communicate his desire to reconcile after a difficult time in his marriage. Despite being separated for three months due to past traumas and ego, he's actively working on self-improvement and seeking advice on how to win back his spouse without putting undue pressure on her.

Key Discussion Points:

  • Taking Responsibility: It’s important to take responsibility for the choices we make in our marriage. Our listener acknowledges his shortcomings as a husband and is encouraged to be specific about the changes he's implementing.
  • Healing Past Traumas: If we don’t understand the role of past traumas in our marriage conflicts, we are likely to not fully heal from them. Genuine healing often requires professional help.
  • Asking for Forgiveness: Sincere and specific apologies are significant, not as a means to an end, but as a genuine show of remorse for past hurt we’ve caused.
  • Respecting Boundaries: If the spouse decides not to reconcile, respecting her decision is crucial. While working towards reconciliation, we must acknowledge our spouse's free will and potential decision to move on even if it hurts.

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Meet Your Host
Dana Che is the founder of Thrive Relationships, where she serves as a marriage and relationship coach and host of the Rebuilding Us marriage podcast. She also serves as a preaching pastor at her church. Whether in the church or on her podcast, Dana's mission is singular: to help people rebuild their relationships through the grace and guidance of the Lord.

On Rebuilding Us, she is known for her graceful candor, humor, and her encouraging yet challenging advice. Dana holds a B.A. in communication from Regent University. She has a fierce passion for fashion and a fiercer passion for truth. She shares her life with Shaun, her loving husband of over twenty-five years, their four amazing children, and their “multi-cultural” dog in beautiful Virginia Beach, VA.

Connect with Dana:
Instagram: @mrsdanache
Website: danache.com
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