Why Did This Happen? (Healing After Infidelity)

March 11, 2025
00:00 27:37
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One of the questions every betrayed spouse grapples with when dealing with infidelity is, "Why did this happen?" Infidelity can be one of the most challenging obstacles a marriage may face. Understanding the 'why' is crucial because every affair has a reason. It’s essential here to distinguish between a reason and an excuse. While reasons offer insights into underlying issues, excuses deflect responsibility. The truth is infidelity is always a choice, a willful decision, in nearly every case.

This episode outlines five reasons that commonly underlie affairs, including:

  • emotional disconnection
  • unresolved personal issues
  • lack of boundaries
  • unmet needs
  • personal crises.

It’s important to note that while these reasons might explain why an affair happened, they don't excuse the betrayal.

We also discuss “What now” after an affair has happened. If you find yourself in the unfortunate situation of infidelity, there is hope and healing is possible whether you stay in or leave your marriage.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Reeling from Infidelity? Get my “Affair Recovery Checklist” and take the first next steps toward healing.

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Meet Your Host
Dana Che is the founder of Thrive Relationships, where she serves as a marriage and relationship coach and host of the Rebuilding Us marriage podcast. She also serves as a preaching pastor at her church. Whether in the church or on her podcast, Dana's mission is singular: to help people rebuild their relationships through the grace and guidance of the Lord.

On Rebuilding Us, she is known for her graceful candor, humor, and her encouraging yet challenging advice. Dana holds a B.A. in communication from Regent University. She has a fierce passion for fashion and a fiercer passion for truth. She shares her life with Shaun, her loving husband of over twenty-five years, their four amazing children, and their “multi-cultural” dog in beautiful Virginia Beach, VA.

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