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Team Us
Ted and Ashleigh Slater
The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one.
Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years.
Whether you’re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you’ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you’ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us.
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How to Be a Couple of Influence
July 2, 2024 - 25 min
Did you know that you and your spouse are a couple of influence? It’s true! Even if you don’t have a platform, television show, or a large online following, you are daily influencing — for better or for worse — how those around you think about marriage. Today, we share three ways you can use your influence for good. 3 Ways to Be Positive Influencers Be real Choose grace Laugh together Us Time Challenge Think about a couple you know who influences you to see marriage in a positive light. What is it about what they do, say, and live that makes you view marriage well? How can you practice some of the same things in your relationship? Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage FREE Team Us Study Guide Links Mentioned in This Episode Ted’s master’s thesis on laughter Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website Instagram Facebook Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Why We Go to Bed Mad (And Why It's Helped Our Marriage)
June 25, 2024 - 22 min
Within the Christian community, “Do not let the sun go down on your anger” is often quoted as a hard-and-fast rule for married couples to follow whenever they experience conflict. But sometimes Ted and I do go to bed mad—and surprisingly, it’s been good for our marriage. In today’s episode, we’ll tell you why. 3 Reasons We Go to Bed Mad We don’t want to sweep any issues under the rug. We need a break before addressing conflict. We want genuine apologies and real reconciliation. Us Time Challenge Think of another hard-and-fast rule couples are often told. Do you practice it in your marriage? How has it been helpful? If not, what do you do instead and why? Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage FREE Team Us Study Guide Links Mentioned in This Episode Commentary on Ephesians 4:26 at BibleRef.com “The Benefits of Slumber” at NIH News in Health The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages by Shaunti Feldhahn Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website Instagram Facebook Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
How to Respond When Your Spouse Loads the Dishwasher Wrong
June 18, 2024 - 21 min
Do you and your spouse approach daily tasks or responsibilities differently? Maybe it’s how you load the dishwasher, fold laundry, or even where you cut your toenails. As couples, sometimes, it’s easy for us to assume our way is the right way and seek to change each other. In this episode, we discuss how to work through the annoyance and loss of control you may feel when your spouse’s way of doing things differs from yours. 2 Practical Ways to Honor God with Your Responses Let go of your need to control. Stop and thank God for your spouse. Us Time Challenge Think of a task or responsibility your spouse tackles very differently from you. What can you appreciate from the way they approach it? What’s one way you can express that appreciation to them? Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Links Mentioned in This Episode “I Do Things Differently Than My Wife. And That’s OK.” by Clint Edwards at The New York Times “The Benefits of Losing Control in Your Marriage” by LeRoy and Kimberly Wagner at FocusontheFamily.com Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/) Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
How to Have a Front-Seat Marriage with James and Arlene Pellicane
June 11, 2024 - 23 min
Has your marriage taken a backseat to your parenting? Today, we have author and speaker Arlene Pellicane and her husband James on the podcast. They share practical tips on how your marriage can take a front seat! Us Time Challenge Connect daily this week by taking walks around the block. More from James and Arlene Pellicane Visit Arlene Pellicane’s website (https://arlenepellicane.com/) 31 Days to a Happy Husband by Arlene Pellicane (https://amzn.to/3Jum9CO) 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife by Arlene Pellicane (https://amzn.to/3xFG92y) Parents Rising by Arlene Pellicane (https://amzn.to/4b1nqgo) The Happy Home Podcast with Arlene Pellicane (https://www.accessmore.com/pd/https/arlenepellicanecom/podcasts/) Follow Arlene on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ArlenePellicaneAuthor) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/arlenepellicane/) Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/) Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
The Best Marriage Advice We Ever Received
June 4, 2024 - 22 min
When you got married, you probably received a lot of advice. I know we did! Well, today, we’re talking about the best marriage advice we’ve ever received. We’ll also share with you some favorite words of wisdom our friends were given. Us Time Challenge Talk with your spouse about the best marriage advice you received. Ask yourselves if you are regularly putting it into practice. Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/) Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Navigating Sickness as a Team with Jon and Brett Seidl
May 28, 2024 - 25 min
Did you recite traditional vows at your wedding? We did! One thing we promised was, “in sickness and in health.” But what does it look like to walk together as a team through sickness? Best-selling author Jon Seidl and his wife Brett—who is an award-winning interior designer—join us to talk about how they have been navigating debilitating health issues. It’s Part 2 of our interview with them. Us Time Challenge When we’re going through hard stuff, there is a lot of opportunity for conflict, misunderstandings, and hurting one another. Talk about what forgiveness looks like in these situations. More from Jon and Brett Seidl Finding Rest: A Survivor’s Guide to Navigating the Valleys of Anxiety, Faith, and Life by Jonathon M. Seidl (https://amzn.to/3xMAKHd) Dear Jon with Jonathon M. Seidl (https://jonseidl.substack.com/) Lewis and Rose Interiors YouTube channel with Brett Seidl (https://www.youtube.com/@lewisandrose) Follow Jon on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/jonathonmseidl) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/jonseidl/) Follow Lewis and Rose Interiors on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/lewisandroseinteriors) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/lewisandroseinteriordesign/) Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/) Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Navigating Mental Health as a Team with Jon and Brett Seidl
May 21, 2024 - 27 min
Has your marriage been impacted by mental health issues? If so, today’s episode is for you. Best-selling author Jon Seidl and his wife Brett—who is an award-winning interior designer—join us to talk about how they’ve navigated the valleys of anxiety and OCD as a team. It’s Part 1 of two episodes with them. Jon and Brett are open, vulnerable, and wise. You don’t want to miss this interview! Us Time Challenge Take time to do a weekly check-in with your spouse. Ask if they are feeling any stress or anxiety, and pray together about it. More from Jon and Brett Seidl Finding Rest: A Survivor’s Guide to Navigating the Valleys of Anxiety, Faith, and Life by Jonathon M. Seidl (https://amzn.to/3xMAKHd) Dear Jon with Jonathon M. Seidl (https://jonseidl.substack.com/) Lewis and Rose Interiors YouTube channel with Brett Seidl (https://www.youtube.com/@lewisandrose) Follow Jon on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/jonathonmseidl) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/jonseidl/) Follow Lewis and Rose Interiors on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/lewisandroseinteriors) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/lewisandroseinteriordesign/) Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/) Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Why Staying a Team Takes Time... and Is Worth the Investment
May 14, 2024 - 26 min
Sometimes, we forget in marriage that staying a team takes time. As a result, we can find ourselves slowly drifting away from one another. However, research shows that couples who spend time together regularly and consistently are happier and have a better relationship. Listen in as we discuss why staying a team takes time … and is worth the investment. 3 Ways to Invest Time into Your Relationship Schedule time together. Just say “no.” Be fully present. Us Time Challenge Pull out the calendar and schedule a date this week. It doesn’t have to be super special, extra romantic, or even well-planned. Go on an evening walk, do your Costco shopping together, or maybe visit a local food truck. Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Links Mentioned in This Episode “Why Are Divorces Over Forty Becoming More Common?” Harris Family Law Group (https://bestlafamilylawyers.com/why-are-divorces-over-40-becoming-more-common/) The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn (https://amzn.to/3Q5zDbT) “This Is How Often Married Couples Should Plan Date Nights” by Lily Blomquist at Brides.com (https://www.brides.com/married-couples-date-night-frequency-6823194) “Giving Up Good Things for the Best Things in Marriage” by Selena Frederick at Focus on the Family (https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/giving-up-good-things-for-the-best-things-in-marriage/) Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/) Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
How to Face Anxiety as a Team When It Impacts Your Marriage
August 8, 2023 - 25 min
We’ve all had situations or experiences where we’ve felt anxious. Maybe before a job interview, during a move or the house-buying process, or when faced with a daunting project or deadline. For some of us, though, anxiousness isn’t limited to a situation or experience. It can be a daily struggle. Listen in as we share our story and give you some practical suggestions on how you can support, encourage, and stay united when anxiety impacts marriage. 3 Practical Ways to Face Anxiety as a Team Identify triggers. Establish needs. Practice patience. Us Time Challenge Talk to your spouse about a time when you felt anxious. What triggered it, and what did you need? How can you prepare to face anxiety as a team in the future. Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Links Mentioned in This Episode List of Phobias: Common Phobias from A to Z at verywellmind.com (https://www.verywellmind.com/list-of-phobias-2795453) Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/ashleighslater_author/) Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
Why Being Right in Marriage Can Be Wrong
August 1, 2023 - 23 min
How often do you need to be right? And how do you respond when you’re not right, and your spouse is? We’re digging into all that today and discussing why being right in marriage can be wrong. Listen in as we chat about how we can help maintain the peace, not by hoping that our spouse, if ever asked, applaud us as always right. But instead, by actively practicing humility. 2 Practical Ways to Choose Humility Reject me-centeredness Choose both/and Us Time Challenge Identify if there are any little areas where you insist on being right. We all have them. Then, figure out how you can practice both/and in this area. Team Us Resources Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/) FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Resources Mentioned in This Episode Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis Connect with Ted and Ashleigh Website (https://ashleighslater.com/) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/ashleighslater_author/) Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
