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We often look at each other and say, “We’re so glad we have a boring marriage.” You might think that sounds crazy—and maybe it does! After all, boring isn’t the adjective most of us want to describe our marriages. But we’re not talking about boring as many of us narrowly define the term: dull, uninteresting, tiresome. We’re putting a new spin on the word!Listen in as we share three things that characterize a boring marriage. You’ll also hear some practical ways you can have one. By the time we’re done, we hope you’ll see why boring marriages are underrated!3 Characteristics of a Boring Marriage1. It’s a drama-free zone2. Commitment outweighs personal fulfillment3. No power-couple status required3 Ways to Have a Boring Marriage1. Pick your “yeses” wisely2. Pick your comparisons wisely3. Pick your friends and advisors wiselyUs Time ChallengeListen to Ben Rector’s song, “Crazy.” Plan an afternoon or evening together based on one of the “crazy” marriage moments he sings about.Team Us Resources• Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/)• FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Connect with Ted and Ashleigh• Website (https://ashleighslater.com/) • Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/ashleighslater_author/) • Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We’ve gone on many fun dates in our twenty years of marriage! Listen in as we do a not-so-rapid-fire Q&A round sharing highlights from our top dates over the years. You’ll hear about our unplanned convertible ride through the desert, the time we flew kites in the park, our dinner date that included a lot of fake blood, and our evening in a castle.Even though we’ve made it a priority over the years to date each other, we know that in certain seasons of life, it can be challenging to make date night a reality. Sometimes as couples, we can even wonder, “What’s the point? We’re already married!” But date night isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity! Hear why we believe date night matters and learn creative and practical ways to make it a consistent reality in your marriage.4 Practical Ways to Make Date Night a Reality:1. Determine together that date night is a necessity2. Be flexible on the when and how long of date night3. Adjust expectations to fit your current season of life4. Schedule weeknight dates to break up the monotonyUs Time ChallengePlan a date for this week! Put it on the calendar and make it happen. If you’re not sure what to do or where to go, plan your date based on one of these categories we shared:• Dinner Date• Outdoor Date• Special Occasion Date• Event Date• Home DateTeam Us Resources:• Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/)• FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Links Mentioned in This Episode:• “Better Decisions” message from Chad Moore at Sun Valley Community Church (https://www.sunvalleycc.com/sermons/in-everything-you-do/better-decisions) • 15 Fun Date Night Ideas That Won’t Break the Bank from Darlene Schacht (https://timewarpwife.com/20-date-night-ideas-dont-break-bank/) Connect with Ted and Ashleigh:• Website (https://ashleighslater.com/) • Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/ashleighslater_author/) • Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

It's taken us over a year to bring you season two of the Team Us podcast. But we’re finally back behind the mics, and we have a lot of good reasons why it’s taken us so long. Listen in as we share about our cross-country move, road-trip stops, house-building woes, and our impromptu lunch with Russians.We’re not just reconnecting with you, though. We’re also sharing practical ways you can reconnect with your spouse. The busyness of life often leaves us as couples feeling disconnected or like we’re growing apart. But it doesn’t have to be this way! Learn four ways you can reconnect when life pulls you apart.4 Practical Steps to Help You Reconnect1.Check in2.Course correct3.Date each other4.Go back to the beginningUs Time Challenge:This week, go back to the beginning. Rediscover something you enjoyed doing together when you first got married, and make time for it.Team Us Resources• Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/)• FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/) Links Mentioned in This Episode• What You Can Learn from History’s Most Infamous Couple: https://bit.ly/3NmpghfConnect with Ted and Ashleigh• Website (https://ashleighslater.com/) • Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/ashleighslater_author/) • Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We all want to finish well as couples, right? We sure do! Well, it’s the daily decisions we make individually and together that influence how our marriages fare in the long run. Because of this, it’s important to be purposeful to live out the day-to-day in a way that positively affects the years to come.So how can we keep moving toward the finish line united? Listen in as we share why right now matters to the long-term of your marriage. You’ll hear how the choices you make today affect your relationship tomorrow, next year, and even a decade from now. 2 Ways to Help You Finish Well1. Make today’s decisions with a long-term perspective2. Have a realistic view of your own weaknessesUs Time ChallengeVisit a cemetery this week. Walk slowly through it and read the epitaphs. Think about your marriage as you do. What do you want those closest to you to say about your marriage when it’s wrapped up? What can you do now to help make that legacy a reality?***Team Us Resources:Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in MarriageFREE Team Us Study GuideConnect with Ted and Ashleigh:Website | Instagram | FacebookEpisode Image Credit: Getty/Tanya St Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Today, we’re talking about how the friends we keep make a difference in our marriages. It’s not only important that as couples we have community, but also that we’re purposeful in whom we bring into our confidence. So, we’re going to share what we call a “friendship inventory” you can do to make sure you’re confiding in the right people. It’s also a helpful tool to determine whether you’re being this kind of friend to others. Plus, if you’re struggling to even have the right people in your life, we’ll share some ways you can seek out these kinds of friendships. Friendship Inventory Questions:1.Does this friend esteem marriage?2.Does this friend view the opposite sex with respect?3.Does this friend build up my marriage and not just me?Ways to Develop Godly Friendships:1.Join a church that values marriage2.Get involved in that church3.Become members of a small groupUs Time ChallengeTake the friendship inventory to see how you’re doing at being a friend who esteems marriage, respects the opposite sex, and builds up your friends’ marriages. Think about ways you can do better.***Team Us Resources:Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in MarriageFREE Team Us Study GuideConnect with Ted and Ashleigh:Website | Instagram | FacebookEpisode Image Credit: Getty/Nadya Ustyuzhantseva Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We’ll tell you that having kids is well worth the effort. There’s nothing like it. We’ve found that God uses parenting to refine and change us in a way other things can’t. That said, parenting has been one of our most challenging team efforts yet. Sometimes the different upbringings and different personalities we’ve brought to our marriage complicate rather than contribute to and enrich our parenting. We’ve had to work hard not to allow these areas of difference to divide us. While we’re definitely not parenting experts, we’ve learned a few things along the way about how to parent together. So, listen in as we share three things you can do to better parent as a team.3 Ways to Better Parent as a Team:1. Appreciate each other’s perspectives2. Learn from each other’s approaches3. Actively support one another’s parenting choices***Us Time Challenge:We know that we don’t want to use our words to tear each other down. The thing is, we can actually speak words of life. Think of some specific ways you can encourage your spouse as a parent, and build them up in the eyes of your children.***Team Us Resources:Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in MarriageFREE Team Us Study GuideConnect with Ted and Ashleigh:Website | Instagram | FacebookEpisode Image Credit: Getty/Oleksandra-Bezverkha Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Sometimes we sit back and wonder how we made it through our weeping years. But here we are, still married, still friends, and still liking each other. It wasn’t easy to remain united when miscarriage, multiple job losses, debt, and a house that wouldn’t sell desperately fought to pull us apart. While an attitude of “us vs. the problem” helped, we realized we couldn’t stop with the idea of us against the world. We needed more.Today, we’re talking about how to walk together through the really hard situations, seasons, and losses that we experience as couples. We’re looking at what we can do to remain a strong team during them. So, listen in as we share three practical things you can do to better brave sorrow together in your marriage. 4 Ways to Brave Sorrow Together:1. Refuse to play the blame game2. Face defeat together3. Allow freedom to grief differently from each other4. Point each other back to God’s character***Us Time Challenge:Make a list of the ways God has been faithful to you as a couple. Tape it to your fridge or bathroom mirror as a reminder of His goodness even in difficulty. ***Team Us Resources:Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in MarriageFREE Team Us Study GuideLinks Mentioned in This Episode:Braving Sorrow Together: The Transformative Power of Faith and Community When Life Is Hard ***Connect with Ted and Ashleigh:Website | Instagram | FacebookEpisode Image Credit: Getty/Rudzhan Nagiev Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

For us, laughter and a sense of levity or lightheartedness has carried us through the years. Laughter has been, as Proverbs 17:22 says, “good medicine” for us. But laughter isn’t something that comes easily for all couples.While we’re not experts on why other couples struggle to laugh together, we do know one of the reasons we can. It’s because we make intentional efforts to live out our marriage with unburdened hearts.An unburdened heart is a lighthearted heart. Why? Because it’s one that’s not weighed down by grudges. It’s challenging to feel lighthearted and at ease in a marriage, if we’re keeping tallies on each other. If you want a lighthearted marriage, too, listen in as we share three guiding principles that we’ve found helpful.3 Ways to Have a Lighthearted Marriage:1. Practice the 49 percent/51 percent policy2. Serve with no strings attached3. Have a common enemyUs Time Challenge:Actively look for an opportunity this week to give in on something small with your spouse. Put into practice our 49 percent/51 percent policy and see what happens.Team Us Resources:Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in MarriageFREE Team Us Study Guide Links Mentioned in This Episode:The Benefits of Laughter article from Psychology Today Connect with Ted and Ashleigh:Website | Instagram | FacebookEpisode Image Credit: Getty/Cosmaa Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Bilbo Baggins once referred to adventures as “nasty disturbing comfortable things that make you late for dinner.” In some ways, he’s right. Adventures aren’t simply exciting, thrill-seeking activities. They stretch us in ways that force us to change.What does this have to do with conflict in marriage? Conflict is often uncomfortable and inconvenient. It disturbs our status quo and can even disrupt dinner plans…or gasp!…date nights. We often react like Bilbo and think, “Sorry, I don’t want any conflict, thank you. Not today.”But it’s important that we work through conflict in healthy, team-building ways. When we choose to put our marriage’s long-term health and mission ahead of our individual agendas, it’s well worth the effort. Not only are we strengthening and deepening our relationship, but we’re also ultimately choosing to reflect Christ. Listen in as we talk about conflict as an adventure, how to face your disagreements with a team-first perspective, and why your timing in resolving issues matters. Strategies for Facing Conflict as a Team1. Embrace conflict as an adventure2. Trade a me-first perspective for a team-first perspective3. Choose carefully how and when to work through conflictUs Time ChallengeThink back to when you went on an adventure together. Talk about what was hard, but how you worked together to overcome the challenges. Discuss how that brought you together. Then talk about how you can apply some of the things you did to how you face conflict now.Team Us Resources:Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in MarriageFREE Team Us Study Guide Links Mentioned in This Episode: The HobbitConnect with Ted and Ashleigh:Website | Instagram | Facebook Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

After we got married, we were surprised by how differently we celebrated holidays and birthdays. One of us loved to go big, while the other preferred to treat them like any other day. But, as we’ve slowly learned over the years, differences like that don’t have to divide us. When we approach them with the right attitude, they can unite us.As a couple, our differences can serve as a great reminder that we need teamwork. We need unity, cooperation, and commitment. And, as we band together for the common good of our relationship, instead of focusing on the places where we feel disappointed or our likes rejected, it becomes easier for us to appreciate, and not despise, the other’s uniqueness.What are some practical ways you can do this in your marriage? Listen in as we share three things we do so that our differences help us grow together and not apart.3 Ways to Grow Together and Not Apart1. Build on common interests2. Don’t force change3. Learn to stretch by trying new thingsUs Time ChallengeGo on a date. You can either pick your favorite common interest that you share, or one of you can decide to try something the other enjoys. Plan this week’s date around it.Team Us Resources:Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in MarriageFREE Team Us Study Guide Links Mentioned in This Episode:The Princess Bride Connect with Ted and Ashleigh:Website | Instagram | Facebook Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.